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the question:
hi my name is angela and i like a boy named john. we used to be really good friends but then over the summer he got a girl friend. so now were not really friends and he wont go out with me because he always has a reason he cant. last your he liked me but we never really went on a date, but then he was willing to go out with me can you please help me find a way for him to want to be my boyfriend.

sheila’s advice
Angela,

Why would you want to MAKE a boy like you and go out with you? The relationship would never work. Try to take pride in yourself and know that this guy doesn't deserve you and that if he doesn't want to be with you then it is his loss, not yours. Move on and do yourself a favor by only being with people who like you as much as you like them.

~Sheila

trixie’s advice
He can't go out with you because he has a girlfriend. If he's making excuses he doesn't want to go out with you. You can't make a guy want to be your boyfriend. You can do things to improve yourself and make yourself a good person - but whether that will make a particular guy like you can't be known. Some people simply don't "click" with others. There's no way to force it. You shouldn't want to. Move on so you can find someone that does want to date you.

~Trixie

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Name:	rachel
Date:	Mon Nov 18 13:26:14 2002
Wrote... well i think you should be your self and relax there might be other boys you want. dont do what he dosent want you to be. 213.122.56.216 submitter's IP address

Name:	Maylynn
Date:	Sat Oct 26 15:13:29 2002
Wrote... Yea ok,well there is this guy that lives in my neighboorhood,sometimes me and my best friend talk to him.He is very nice but when his friends are there he throws stuff at us like snowballs.I still really like him....I told my be-fr(best friend) that I like him and she asked him out for me and he said yes.We went out for a few months and he dumped me for some other grrl...months went by and my be-fr asked him out for me again and he said yes.But he dumped me for the same grrl.My problem is, when we were going out we barely talk to each other...we never even hugged or kissed.He said he loved me but do you think me really ment it?. 66.185.84.207 submitter's IP address

Name:	Becca
Date:	Fri Sep 20 16:38:06 2002
Wrote... hey angela....you shouldn't have to make him be your boyfriend....he should have to want to be your boyfriend...you cant just make someone do that....cuz they wont....you should find someone else that is actually interested in you and not playing games like that.... 12.38.4.128 submitter's IP address

Name:	Ang
Date:	Tue Aug 20 21:14:25 2002
Wrote... Hey there. I will be honest and say that I know exactly how you feel, that is why I posted a response to this question. As much as you like a guy, there is no way to make him like you. I have questioned that myself, but there is just no way. But let me tell you something, girl... things always happen for a reason, and no matter how bad it might seem, it is all for the best. You might not see it now, but maybe a month, or a year from now, you will. I also know that with heartache comes laughter. You just have to keep your heart and mind open to other possibilities and opportunities. Keep your head up, girl. I promise you, whatever happens is going to be all for the best. Also, I would like you to remember what a few people have already said, and I am also going to say it. - It is HIS loss, not yours. Don't view this as a loss, view it as a gain... a gain of your freedom to find the right guy. I wish you nothing but the best!! PS: Also, I would be questioning how real the friendship was in the first place...? 206.172.185.234 submitter's IP address

Name:	Amanda
Date:	Sat Aug 10 22:45:21 2002
Wrote... Hey, well I really think that you need to leave him alone. Cause if he really or even liked you in the first place, he would of never got a girlfriend. So I think that you need to move on and find your own guy. 216.78.40.252 submitter's IP address

Name:	alexis
Date:	Fri Aug 9 21:15:11 2002
Wrote... Hey sup well i have this guy that really like and he says he likes me alot and cant stop thinkin about me but then why doesnt he ask me out or sumthin cause i really want to be his g/f and i really like him and i just he would ask me out already i mean ya i known for about a month but we both really like each other. how do i get the point across that i really do love him 205.188.193.167 submitter's IP address

Name:	Jason
Date:	Wed Aug 7 17:36:38 2002
Wrote... There is something that girls don't understand, guys are dumb. We don't get hints, we need to be hit over the head with things. If you like this guy and want to date him, tell him. He's not married, maybe he's liked you forever but is too chicken to say anything to you. I know before my wife and I were dating she was throwing herself at me (at least in a girl-way throwing herself) and I didn't pick up on it. Like I said, were dumb. 63.164.68.70 submitter's IP address

Name:	Laura
Date:	Thu Aug 1 14:58:47 2002
Wrote... I know how you feel Angela,believe me I do.I was in a little different situation myself,but I wanted to have advice about the same thing as you do.Anyway,my story was about a guy that was treating me like air.In other words,he didn't notice me,cause he was a gorgeous and popular boy.(typical)So why would he like ME,an ordanary girl,a loser??!!No,the right girl for him was one that was on the same level as he...She was a superduper pretty girl who had EVERYTHING!!She looked amazing!And of course my crush fell for her,who wouldn't??!!They got together,and they still are.I tryied to find ways to steal him,but it was impossible..it was too late.He was crazy about her.So my advice to you is:get another guy!I know it sounds so typical,but it's the only way you could move on with your life.Forget him!I know how it feels,cause everyday when I see HIM holding hands with HER and kissing her all the time,it makes me so sad.I just want to cry...he broke my heart and he doesn't deserve me.You should do what I've done,move on!Good luck,Angela!
Wrote... Umm - the guy has a GIRLFRIEND! Tha's why he can't go out with you. Get a clue. How would you feel if you were gon out with him and some other chick was after him? 216.127.0.180 submitter's IP address

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