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the question:
Hi I'm Emma and I've got a friend who knows I fancy a certain guy but she keeps on flirting with him and now she is dating him just to get at me. I want to tell him how my friend is just using him because she knows how I feel about him but I'm afraid he will laugh at me and say I'm making it up. What should I do ?

sheila’s advice
Obviously she is not a friend. Walk away from them both and find new friends and new crushes.

~Sheila

trixie’s advice
I agree with Sheila. She isn't a friend. He probably wouldn't believe you. Move on - and if they break-up, you can decide whether he is still someone you want to pursue.

~Trixie

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Name:	janelude
Date:	Fri Jul 25 02:52:05 2003
Wrote... thats is not a friend. you should defintely tell that boy how you feel just to make her mad and if she knew you like him she should of stayed away cuz that could be afuture husband but seriously i would of stayed away if you were my friend 67.30.116.146 submitter's IP address

Name:	Nadine
Date:	Sun Jun 29 05:25:03 2003
Wrote... I think that you should gang up with your other friends and tell the story and then that guy that you like will dump her, But if you dont want to hurt her feelings tell her what you are felling. Show your fellings maybe crying, because that really does get deep down into someones hart. Thankyou and goodluck. 203.34.212.9 submitter's IP address

Name:	Brittney
Date:	Fri Jun 20 13:44:19 2003
Wrote... Listen, I liked this guy and my friend knew it and was always telling him so. She made fun of me and said a lot of things about him. Then they got together. I was mad and two of my other friends don't like her. I know I shouldn't of but we spread rumors and I told everyone her secrets, not just because she was going out with the gy I liked though. There was alot of other things. But we told him how she had said all these bad things about him and how she is just using him. Don't even try... he didn't listen to us. Tipical male. One of my friends was dating him and he broke up with her to go out with my other frind. He thought we were making it up because we were jealous. 68.97.182.41 submitter's IP address

Name:	Carley
Date:	Sat Jun 14 09:04:15 2003
Wrote... Emma, Look babe, this may sound like I'm trying to make something up to make u feel better, but I'm not. I have the same thing happening right now. Here's what u have to do. No matter how much it hurts, u have to be happy for your friend. She must have liked him too, otherwise it would be hurting u and him and that would mean she is just evil.If she's been through thick and thin with u, like u say, then she'll be there now too. You have to tell her how u feel. Tell her that it hurts u to see that she is gong out with someone that u told her u liked a lot. I hope it works, it worked for me.Good luck! :) 64.12.96.43 submitter's IP address

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Date:	Thu May 15 08:16:24 2003
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Name:	jhlfibasf
Date:	Wed May 14 18:51:31 2003
Wrote... As I Lay Me Down Sophie B. Hawkins *Played twice during the two hours premiere of S6. First as D/J share a dance right before they head to Joey´s dorm, and secondly, the morning after their first night of passion together, as they wake up and make love again. Needless to say, this has become one of the faves song for all D/Jers out there!* It felt like springtime on this February morning In the courtyard birds were singing your praise I'm still recalling things you said to make me feel alright I carried them with me today, Now Chorus: As I lay me down to sleep This I pray That you will hold me dear Though I'm far away I'll whisper your name into the sky And I will wake up happy I wonder why I feel so high Though I am not above the sorrow Heavy hearted Till you call my name And it sounds like church bells Or the whistle of a train On a summer evening I'll run to meet you Barefoot barely breathing As I lay me down to sleep This I pray That you will hold me dear Though I'm far away I'll whisper your name into the sky And I will wake up happy It's not too near for me Like a flower I need the rain Though it's not clear to me Every season has its change And I will see you When the sun comes out again As I lay me down to sleep This I pray That you will hold me dear Though I'm far away I'll whisper your name into the sky And I will wake up happy 66.161.214.70 submitter's IP address

Name:	Marilyn
Date:	Tue May 13 04:00:36 2003
Wrote... Sometimes you have to be your own best friend. That means sticking up for yourself and not being afraid to tell friends or boyfriends that they have crossed the line as to what you find unacceptable. There will be times when you have to say "What are you doing? Don't you realize that you are hurting my feelings? Why would you do that?" I am not talking about creating a scene. I am talking about being very candid in you wants and desires. In addition, I think it is important to try to address these situations as they occur. Personally, I think your boyfriend is too imature to say no to the possibility of dating more than one woman. Is this the kind of guy you really want? Some guys NEVER grow out of that. 66.171.15.34 submitter's IP address

Name:	DIVA
Date:	Sun May 4 23:43:04 2003
Wrote... Emma, Sweetie, It takes two to tango ( or date). The guy is asking out the girl he wants to date.. maybe it will be YOU next week, ya know? Hold your head high, put on your jazziest clothes, do the hair and makeup every day you are going to be around these two, and give him something to think about. Emma, obviously your friend was attracted to the guy also. She may have been too shy or afraid of making you mad to tell you. Try not to feel terribly hurt, because crushes come and go. She may have heard you talking about how fine he is, too, and that made her think he would be a prize for her.. In any case, just be the best YOU you can be, let them light their fire together, try not to interfere or even notice, ( that's what I would do, it will gain you a lot of admiration even if no one comes out and tells you) and I believe that in the end, you will be the one who wins big ( like maybe a much nicer friend or friends, and a great boyfriend for yourself). 68.113.204.82 submitter's IP address

Name:	Shakita
Date:	Sat May 3 17:50:33 2003
Wrote... I agree with both of the girls you can only have one true bestfriend and that is God.He will love you til you die.And Your friend is Jealous where do they get all of this jealousey.And your boyfriend is just a jerk!You should not even talk to him you don't need him! 64.108.201.38 submitter's IP address

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Name:	_____
Date:	Sun Apr 27 19:09:18 2003
Wrote... Hey Emma, I agree that you should talk to your friend like the other girl said. Give her a call so you'll feel better that you guys are one on one and tell her what your thinking and how you feel about things and tell her to listen to what you have to say. You will most likely feel so much better to let everything out. One of my friends likes the boy that I have liked since kindergarden and he likes her and I think that she is doing the same thing so I gave her a call and I feel so much better and I hope that you'll feel better to with your decision and good luck! :) :)Ü 152.163.188.68 submitter's IP address

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Name:	E
Date:	Tue Apr 22 17:39:16 2003
Wrote... Hey Emma. The same thing happened to me. I know the pain you feel. I would call her up, and tell her to please listen, to let you talk. Say "This may sound stupid, and I may be wrong, but I think that you are going out w. _____ just to make me angry. If I'm wrong I'm really sorry, but if this is true, It's really immature, and it hurts my feelings." Good luck :) 68.83.61.227 submitter's IP address

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