Dating No-No
The "Attached" Guy

I'm not sure how it happens - but it seems to all of the time. You meet a guy, and you really hit it off. You both laugh, have things in common. You think he's the guy for you except for the minor fact that he's seeing someone else / married / engaged, etc. It wasn't your intention to fall for the guy. Especially because you knew he was off-limits. But here you are. In heavy like. You haven't met the other gal - and you think that maybe you can steal him away. Or worse yet - you think that it's a "fling" you can have fun with - maybe for a short period of time - then move on to someone else.

The kicker of it is that you don't get over it. You fall for him even more. Although you start out being "OK" with his non-available status - you start to get annoyed. Where he used to make an effort to get away to see you - now he's trying to lay low so as not to get caught. You begin demanding more time. He starts to see you as whiny and complaining. It ends up with you all alone and he's still with that other woman. The one that's first in his life. It doesn't even help to tell her - after all you're the "slut" that tried to steal her husband. She'll forgive him - but you'll still be alone.

If you're lucky....

If you're not lucky - he may leave this other woman for you. You feel superior - the victor in a battle. High and mighty and very loved and adored. You are a happy couple - no longer hiding it from the world. You may even get married. Then one day he's working late. Then maybe it's a couple nights a week. Then it hits you. "Once a cheat - always a cheat".

~by "frustrated by the cheats"
August 2002

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