Dating No-No
The Leach

Now this one sounds like the most obvious no-no. He calls you everyday, three times a day if your not home, and/or shows up/drives by your house, just to see if your home and doesn't phone ahead to say he's coming. But when you hang out together(the times he sees as "dates") he's so charming and nice. He buys your dinner and moive tickets and whatever else you want, which is nice, but not only are you taking advantage of him but he sees these little things as "tickets" closer to the roller coaster ride your about to have. If a guy you like all of a sudden wants to be with you all the time and tries to woo you by buying you stuff, please take notice. It so easy to be blinded by "love" Definetly don't be anywhere alone with him. He may try to have sex with you as a "payback" for the things he has bought you. And in extreame stalker like cases you may even want to get a restraining order. Please visit this site and educate yoursleves:
www.cya.ca.gov/organization/opvs/stalking.html
In my case, when I noticed he was getting a little freaky; I broke it off with him three times. He still wanted to be friends after the first time, so I said ok. Its far too easy to interpet mixed feelings/sexual tension as signs that you like him. But he never gave up, and fianlly the last straw. He went to my best friend and complained to her that he loved me so much, that he was hurting, but he knew I wouldn't go out with him. He told her of the times I was a real bitch to him, because at times he couldn't understand that I did not want to be with him. She got angery at me for being mean to him. I tried to explain to her and she understood, but it brought up more issues between us. I have cried way too many tears over this guy, he had the nerve to call me selfish, when I was sticking up for myself and he is partly the reason why my best friend isn't talking to me. Please take note of the signs and take every relationship slowly. Because The Leach can turn your world upside down.

~by an annonymous Girlposse.com Reader
March 2002

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