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Ways to Cope When Your Parents are Getting Divorced

admin — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 00:00:00 +0000

There are ways to cope when your parents are getting divorced. It may not seem that way, but you are not unique. 50-60 of all marriages end in divorce, that’s more than half. The first thing to understand is that it has nothing to do with you; it’s not your fault even though it may feel that way. Your parents have a relationship outside of the one they have with you. All though your life will change as a result of their decision, their relationship with you does not have to change. In many instances, your relationship with your parents can improve as you view them individually, as opposed to a single unit.

Talk about it to anyone you are comfortable talking to. Share your feelings. It is sometimes easier to hear what you think rather than keeping it all inside. Also, many of the people you may confide in may offer excellent advice. Remember, there is no shame in what your parents are doing, or how you feel about it. It simply is what it is, and how you deal with it defines who you are. Talk to friends, teachers, clergy, guidance councilors or complete strangers. It doesn’t matter who you talk to, just feel what you feel and talk.

Go on-line and research what others like you have felt and done in a similar situation. There are blogs, informational sites, articles and professional services available. You are not unique, so find out what others have done in your situation.

Turn your anger into positive energy. You can choose to deal with this in a good way, or perpetuate the negative emotions. It is your choice. After the initial insult, to carry it and make the situation worse is on you. If you care about your parents, keep it about them. You must have known something was up for a while anyway. Help them deal with what they are going through, don’t take sides, and they can help you. Antagonize them at this time of stress and they will have nothing left for you. Continue to love them, and let them be parents and adults.

Talking To Your Parents: A Few Tips

admin — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 00:00:00 +0000

Your parents want to get you, they really do, but it’s hard to relate to a teenage girl when you’re soold. Here are a few ways to bridge that communication gap with the rents and start having better conversations now
Get Offline: Sure it’s tempting to be texting and Facebooking on your hughesnet all the time but your parents aren’t used to all the multi-tasking. Unplug for a few minutes each day to talk to your parents – they’ll really appreciate your undivided attention.
Bring Your Friends Around: They’d love to meet who you’re spending all your time with so if you get a chance, bring some of your best friends around and let them chat with your parents. It will make them feel more involved and conversations will be easier since they’ll be able to place a face with a name.
Do Something Fun: Talking to your parents doesn’t have to be a sit-down affairask your mom to go for a walk or your dad to take you out to breakfast. They’ll love feeling like you want to spend one-on-one time with them.

Things to Consider When Applying to College

admin — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 00:00:00 +0000

There are many things to consider when applying to colleges. The most important thing to consider is your goals. Researching your choice college is the most important thing you can do. Make sure the college you are applying to has the courses and credits you will need for your chosen profession. Also make sure that the college has the ability to transfer your credits to other colleges should want to further your education. Next you should find out about the ways of the teachers. Are they going to make learning interesting for you, or are they just going to teach you straight out of a book. The way a teacher presents and teaches the information needed will have a great impact on your success in college. Also be sure to know exactly what the college has to offer when it comes to extra-curricular activities. Do they provide things that are exciting and interesting to you? Make sure there are clubs that not only interest you but will provide you with additional skills that will look great on your resume. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, find out about financing. Make sure the college offers scholarships and grants to help with costs.

How to Balance School, Friends, Family and Other Activities

admin — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 00:00:00 +0000

It is more difficult than ever now to balance your life’s concerns and activities.

At this point in your life, school is the most important concern and should be the top priority. Concentrate in class, take notes, keep up with assignments and get the best grades possible. This has the potential to effect the rest of your life and potential career. Developing and maintaining good study habits, reading comprehension, the ability to write creatively and finish a project, whether you like it or not, is the basis of success in college, career and life.

With that in mind, however, there is still time available for friends, family and extra curricular activities. These activities can now be prioritized individually by what you seem to be most important. Most teens find their friends to be more important than family at this point in their lives and that’s okay. Just be respectful to your parents, honest, earn their trust and follow their rules and they should have no problem with your spending free time with friends. It’s not as hard as it sounds!

From there, if you choose to be involved in sports, music, drama or religious activities, you can prioritize from there.The hits keep comin-: Balancing School With Extracurricular Activities

Avoid Cyber Bullying and Cyber Harassment

admin — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 00:00:00 +0000

There are millions of children, teenagers, and even adults all over the world who are experiencing cyber harassment or bullying. There are many different kinds of cyber harassment and bullying. There are some people who post nude or obscene images on the Internet to humiliate another individual. It does not matter whether the image is real or made up for it can still have a huge negative effect on that individual’s life. There are even some victims who refuse to go out of the house again after cyber bullying or harassment because they feel that other people have already seen those obscene photographs or messages.

However, there are a lot of ways that you can do to prevent and stop cyber harassment and bullying. If your child is still young, it is best if you do not allow him or her to join social networking sites. In most cases, cyber harassment or bullying happens in social networking sites. If it is not possible to stop your child from using social networking sites, you should at least guide them properly. You should also avoid posting important information or details about yourself in the Internet such as your address and telephone number.

The Pressure to be Thin, Pretty and Attractive

admin — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 00:00:00 +0000

For girls, all throughout life there is a pressure to fit into the ‘perfect’ image that is projected by the media. We see it all around us. It seems that no matter how hard you try to ignore it, every you turn there is something says ‘be thinner,’ ‘wear more make up,’ or ‘buy our clothes.’ They make teens feel that if they do not conform to these standards that they will never get anything, never be popular, and never get the boy.The whole story can be found at http://socyberty.com/issues/the-importance-of-wildlife/ This is not an accurate assumption.

People that care about what brand clothes you wear or your rank on the popularity food chain are shallow. They may look cool now, but in the long run they turn as people you wouldn’t want to be friends with. These are the kind of people that go with the flow every time the grass looks greener on the other side.

Saying ‘be yourself’ may seem like the most cliche thing you hear during the years of middle school, high school, and college, but there is a reason for that. If you express yourself, truly, do things because you want to, wear things because you want to, and find activities you actually enjoy, it will be easy to find good friends that have acceptance in their hearts.