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6 Common Marriage Mistakes
Copyright© Tapan Sarkar
www.findyoursoulmatetoday.com
6 common marriage mistakes, that the young people and those
who care for them should be aware of.
Every marriage starts with a lot of hope and dream about
life long association filled with love and togetherness. But
very few marriages fulfill the hopes of the participants in
totality.
There are various reasons for this but here we single out 6
of those. Every young person who is planning marriage should
be aware of these most common pitfalls.
1. Marrying for the sake of love without first checking the
depth of love.
No denying that all relationships start with a sense of
love and mutual liking. Committing to a long term
relationship like marriage solely on the basis of that
feeling of love is a mistake. Because most of the time this
kind of feeling is superficial and can not pass the test of
time. Romantic feeling dies as time passes and far more
important issues like 'family background', 'values',
'religious faith', 'financial stability' raise their head,
and these issues are of real importance which almost every
body with feeling of mutual love ignore.
2. Marrying someone who does not share an interest or
hobby.
While marriage with a person who does not share an interest
or hobby does not itself make the marriage unstable,
presence of such an interest or hobby can make life more
enjoyable for both the partners. And this can make a real
difference so while selecting life partner this aspect must
be taken into account.
But for some reason or other this aspect is often overlooked
before marriage. And efforts start after marriage to adapt
the partner to one's own interest or develop a new common
interest. While that is not an impossible task, the process
of adapting may become un- palatable and may lead to
unstable marriage.
3. Not knowing what questions to ask for checking
compatibility.
As discussed earlier that marriage decision based on
initial sense of love may be counter productive. To make a
marriage successful one should do some simple homework.
Knowledge of future partner's background and certain other
things can play a crucial role here. But many young persons
either do not try to know all these important facts or do
not know what are important aspects s/he must know to make
their marriage successful.
4. Thinking proper and careful quarries may offend her/him.
One may think that too much investigation about future
partner's back ground may not be a good idea. As the other
partner may find it distasteful. This kind of thought
process keeps many young man and woman from asking the right
questions before marriage.
5. Depending too much on a friend or relatives
recommendation.
A sizable number of young man and woman often get married
on the recommendation of relatives or friends. While
generally relatives and friends are regarded as well
wishers, marrying on their recommendation is not a good
idea. As their knowledge of a person can never equal to the
knowledge the person has about herself or himself. So the
person to be married is in a much better position to select
compatible life partner. Best way out is acting on their
recommendation only after successful completion of
compatibility check.
6. Getting married to make somebody else happy.
Sometimes people get married to make someone else happy. It
may be parents or it may be relatives. There is no problem
in making someone happy if that does not jeopardize one's
own marriage. But most of time in such cases marriages occur
without exercising enough caution. As a result one may end
up marrying someone not compatible.
If you are really serious to make your marriage an exciting,
loving and enriching experience you need to be careful about
the above things before your marriage.
~February 2005
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Tapan Sarkar
Selecting compatible life partner can be tough.
Ask right questions before your marriage.
http://findyoursoulmatetoday.com
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