If You Are Not Going To Call, Don't Ask For My Number!

This one never ceases to amaze me. I'm sure many women can relate to what I'm saying here. Why is it that so many men ask for your number, then never use it? Is this a game to them? Something along the lines of how many women can they get to hand over their number. The more numbers, the larger their egos can grow.

There are the guys I've questioned about this situation so as to try to understand why they do this. Okay, so I happened to be living with them at the time and would find girls numbers in their pockets after a night out with the boys, so the answers may not be as true as they should be. I was usually told that the guys took the gals numbers so as to not hurt their feelings. They seemed to think that if they were talking to a gal for a while, that they would insult her by not asking for her number. I guess they didn't think of the insult to their girlfriend for this behavior. I also tried to explain that a gal would prefer to not give out her number rather than sit by the phone waiting for the guy to call. Isn't it less of an insult to not be asked for your number rather than to not receive the call? How can I get it through guys heads that if you are going to ask for a number, at least have the decency to use it?

If this is a game, it isn't very fun for the gals. I seem to think that it is because men and women are from different planets. Something along the lines of women having strong emotions and men needing to learn what emotions are. Guys, you don't have to ask for our number if it is only because you think it is the right thing to do. The right thing to do is ask for our number if you want to use it to get to know us better. If you are not going to call, don't ask for my number!

Ms Watt, February 2001
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